Archive | November 2016

Maintaining a healthy relationship with your partner

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Maintaining a healthy relationship with the one you love can be a little tricky sometimes. You need to make a conscious effort to keep the spark alive. But what do you do if you begin to feel like you’re drifting away from each other? In my opinion, since every individual is unique, they possess different qualities, which is what makes the entire process of being in a happy, healthy relationship a little complicated. But don’t worry; these tips might help you guys revive the ‘spark’.

First, you must ask yourself the following questions:

1. Are you giving him/her their space?
First and foremost you must remember that being clingy will just drive your partner further away from you. He/she requires their space sometimes, as you do too. Is that too much to ask for? Well to be honest, I really don’t think so.

2. Are you being a little over possessive?
Being possessive is something that, in my opinion, is alright but only to a certain extent. Talking to a person of the opposite sex in no big deal. Possessiveness actually tends to increase the possibility of your partner cheating on you. Also things like “You can’t go out wearing that short dress”, “I won’t let you go out clubbing”, “I don’t like you talking to girls/guys”, etc. Well! Just get these sentences out of your system. Your partner has all the right to do whatever they wish to. However, if something does bother you too much, never hesitate to talk to them about it. Which brings me to my next question.

3. What is the communication like?
Stay honest. Tell your partner how you feel, if you don’t like something about them, if something they did pissed you off, and the list goes on. Trust them enough to know that you don’t have to lie to them.

4. Is there enough appreciation and complements?
Who doesn’t like a little appreciation or when you throw a few compliments here and there? Well, we all know the answer to that now, don’t we? When someone has been in a relationship for a few years, one might feel like the love is either fading away or has faded away already. In order to make your partner realize that you still feel the same way, compliment them every once in a while and appreciate the efforts they’ve been making to make this work with you.

5. Do you trust them, and are you loyal yourself?
Trust is the backbone for every relationship. It takes years for people to build that trust, so please don’t be so inhuman by crushing it in just a second. It’s a lot of hard work building all that trust just for one person. How to figure out if you really trust your partner? The second you start doubting their actions, that’s when you should kiss the trust goodbye! Needless to say, stay loyal to your partner because that’s the least you can do for them for loving you.

6. Do you stand up for your relationship?
People would try and wreck your relationship at every step out of jealousy at most times or just for fun because they have nothing better to do in their lives. But be strong enough to confront your partner instead of just believing everything people say because that believing people would only add to the pile of misunderstandings.

According to me, the following quote holds very true,

“A true relationship is two imperfect people refusing to give up on each other.”

Good luck!

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Life Unfolded

As I sit in my room on a gloomy Sunday evening, enjoying the serene beauty of the hills and sipping hot coffee, I ponder upon a few things related to life and its purpose.

Life has its own way of making things happen and I’m pretty sure most of you know that by now. But for the rest of you who feel like ‘life has no purpose for us’ and all of that, well….I really hope this article is helpful because all I’m going to do is just pen my thoughts down; through all the stuff I have experienced in my life, so far.

There will be times when you feel like life is total bulls**t because nothing will be turning out how you imagined it to. I’ve felt like that way for a long, long time too. But here’s what I realized. It’s not life that tends to disappoint us. In fact, it’s we ourselves who do that. We expect things out of each and every aspect of our life. And that’s simply wrong. Reason being, we tend to imagine the perfect situations and when nothing turns out the way we imagined, well its needless to say- disappointments and only disappointments all the way.

Our lives are planned out for us. They always were. And I’m not saying that because I’m a spiritual person, I’m an atheist for all of you who didn’t know. But I truly feel like our lives are planned out. Our destiny though? Not so much. The strength in us can help change our destiny. Nothing in life can be perfect. You cannot have the perfect job, the perfect family, the perfect boyfriend, the perfect husband, the perfect relationship, the perfect friendship, the perfect anything. Life will be so much more peaceful and stress-free once you remove the term ‘perfect’ from your dictionary. On the other hand, focus on the ‘right’ things. The right job, the right relationship, the right guy, and the list is never-ending.

We all just have one life to live, so why not make the most of it? Why not be spontaneous and have fun? Why think and ruin our peace of mind? I have always been the kind of person who would over-think, analyze every detail of my life, and that did no good for me. It ruined my peace of mind, my happiness. I wasn’t happy with anything no matter how much I tried, I wasn’t fun. I was just depressed, distant from everything and everyone. But now that I have realized how badly that brought me down I decided to make a few changes for my own betterment. And the changes that I made were to just relax, have fun, to not think, to not have expectations from anything or anyone at all. And believe it or not, I’m a much happier soul now than I was before I made these changes.

Let’s shift onto the purpose of this one life that we have. For many of us, life’s purpose would be fame, success, etc. But that cannot keep you happy and at peace all your life. On the other hand, what actually would keep you happy and peaceful for the rest of your life is being a good human being. Forgive and forget, be nice to people no matter how they treat you but at the same time remember that there is something known as self respect. Don’t lose yourself along the way and even if you do, be strong enough to get back on your feet. Don’t compete with people in terms of what they own and how successful they are. This is your life to shape and henceforth, live. Not theirs.

People will come and go. They will hurt you but won’t be there to pick the pieces up. But it’s not their life. It’s yours. You need to be strong enough to pick yourself up no matter what. Time heals but at the same time it gives you strength. Strength to be your own master, strength to change your destiny, strength to make fruitful decisions in life. Don’t do the things you don’t like or are not passionate about. Do what makes you happy. Learn to stand up for yourself. I know all this is easier said than done. But it’s not like it’s impossible to achieve all these things. You just need to be strong and patient.

Relationships come and go, and so does love. Don’t depend on it to make life decisions. Be independent. Anger isn’t the solution to your every problem. Been there, done that. But believe me, now that I’m not that person I was before, life has a whole new meaning for me. I should wrap this up now but after I put across one more point. Don’t listen to people. Don’t give them the decision-making power. People love talking and gossiping but come on! Why should that bother you? They will be judgmental but hey! They haven’t been through any of those things that you have. And even if they have been through those things, the level of intensity would be different. Live in the moment instead of planning everything out.

“You’ve only got one life. Make the most of it.”

I really hope this article is of great help to all of you reading it. I would love to talk with you over emails if there’s ever a time when you feel like you need someone to just vent out your feelings to without being judged for the decisions you’ve made. You will find my email address in the ‘Contact Us’ section.